Unexplainable Love

I am blown away by the unending love from those that have not only seen me at my best but also at my worst.  I tend to wonder how it works: what is it that connects me to these people?  Is it the bonds that were formed when I needed these people the most, when I was vulnerable and weak?  Is it the fact that these people have seen me at my best; have witnessed my potential and the person I truly am?  Have we shared a spiritual bond that has kept us there for each other no matter what, giving us the forgiving heart to sustain the relationship we have formed?  Or is it the fact that we are all human beings, allowing for an unexplainable understanding of one another?

Actually the more I think about it, the more I realize that there is no one answer; and thus, no right answer.

Most of our existence consists of unspoken significance and understanding.  A funny example of this theory is when I asked my Dad: what's with men and their beard phase?  And my Dad acknowledged that "women will never understand the beard."  And we don't, really.  From my perspective, it must just be something all guys do to prove they are real men.  I am man, I can grow beard.  And when I brought this up to my Dad, he said it's just the simple fact that men can grow facial hair, so they think: why not.  I feel like there is more reason than that, but as I probed for more intellectual answers (mostly in order to understand the male brain more) I was told that it's just a guy thing.  "If you were a guy, you'd understand."

As I stepped back from the conversation, I realized that it's yet another one of those unwritten and unspoken understandings (which women have an unending list of, might I add).  Ok, enough with the prefix un-.  (My apologies)

Back to my hypothesis: Sometimes people can't help how they feel or who they love--no matter what happens in a friendship or relationship, and they can't explain why.  We've all heard of the stories and even experienced firsthand the up-and-down phases of relationships.  And from the outside perspective one wonders: what are they thinking?!  But no barrier could stop the love that emanates from the relationship, the bond formed; no wrong could cause that love to fade.

And this is always hard to explain to someone on the outside, am I wrong?  The truth is: that's just Love.  It's both the best thing in life and sometimes the hardest thing to comprehend, let alone put into words.

The very best example, of course, is the love that parents have for their children.  Or even their grandchildren.  Every parent wants the best for their child, wishes only happiness for them, and would climb the highest mountain/swim the deepest sea for them.

The love we have all experienced develops of course from our family, friends, and through our long lasting relationships.  I have been lucky enough to experience this kind of love throughout my life and be a witness to others', and I truly feel that there is not one person out there who is not loved in this way.

This love we all possess is the single most important reason for our being; the one thing that gives us meaning in life and the strength to persevere in any situation.  Ironically, those who guide us through the rough patches in our lives are also those that provide us the motivation to get through it for--and that is true love: when you want to give just as much if not more for those who have given to you.

We know this: we are not here for ourselves, but of course for each other.  We should allow for others to be there for us too!  So in the times when we are at our lowest we need to be inspired by those who love us, press ahead, and humble ourselves to let them in, while acknowledging our imperfections.  

It is wonderful and expected to uncover the best and the worst of ourselves; and we are incredibly lucky for those who truly love us, who will always be there--Unexplainably.